Our struggles though different unite us in compassion. We must remember that even if our voice shakes we must speak up. It doesn't have to be loud, just heard. Fearlessness doesn't make a person brave; it's fear that makes us brave. It keeps us from walking in dark alleys at night and going the long way that's well lit. It keeps us from eating the chicken dish we ordered that doesn't quite look finished.
One of the toughest struggles is the fear of being alone with ourselves and our thoughts. It would seem that the bulk of the media continue to remind us that true happiness comes from going out with friends for all-nighters regularly, having a perfect family, perfect car and perfect skin, and bodies if you're a woman.
"Look, disappointment and uncertainty are constant companions in life's pursuits. Being a little frightened is natural and unavoidable." - Sonia Sotomayor, Supreme Court Justice
When those media outlets are turned off, then we begin to dissect. Our skin and bodies don't look like the ones on the screen or the magazine, our home is not grand, and our car just gets us from point A to B. It's a terrible moment especially if we happen to be home alone. It seems to be the next move is dive right back into the media outlets or spiral down in a self-defeating inner dialogue.
Few are those that can turn those outlets off and continue on their day knowing that they are there for pure entertainment. And furthermore, go on to do an activity that will vitalize their body or mind. It takes a lot of effort to do that. But it takes just as much effort to turn on ourselves.
I wonder how all of our lives would change if we regularly practiced calling on a kinder self as soon as we began contemplating comparisons between our lives and others. My experience has been relatively successful, though it's a constant conversation I have with myself.
My belief is, once we can all reflect and be kind to ourselves without fear of hearing our thoughts and needs. We'll have far more pleasant communities and eventually a more pleasant world. Below is our first Latina Supreme Court Justice Sonia Sotomayor touching on the subject and being amazing.